The Negative Side of Having Mom Friends

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Having mom friends is a huge benefit since it provides you with a support system. They understand what you’re going through since they’re moms themselves. They understand the struggles, challenges and joys of raising children and can relate to you on several levels.

Finding likeminded mom friends can really make being a mom a lot easier and more enjoybale.

However, just like most things in life there is a negative side to mom friends and that is an annoying and not talked about much “mom competition.”

It doesn’t matter if they’re working moms, stay-at-home moms or single moms, sometimes having mom friends can turn into a competition of who has the most well behaved kids or the nicest things for their family. Also, things like a clean home, the best huband and the best home décor all become grounds for competition between moms.

Quit honestly, everything can be a mom competiton these days.

But honestly think about it, what’s the reason we initially reach out to other moms? Many of us will say it’s because we felt lonely while our single friend were off living a different lifestyle or that they don’t understant what it’s like to have kids.

Mom friends are relatable and are there to talk to when your kids are stressing you out. They understand the highs and lows of motherhood. I think if we can all agree on something is that we all want the best for our kids and our home. I think if we were all being honest withoutselves, we all share the same feeling even if we don’t admit it – that we can do a better job as a mom despite already giving our all.

Here are 6 things we can all do to stop this mom competition:

1. Stop Judging Other Moms

Stop judging other moms who are in the process of learning just like you. Every mom has their strengths, and weaknesses, and no one is perfect. When you see other moms struggling with challenges you perhaps have already overcome, be humble enough to love and understand their journey.

2. Stop Judging Yourself

Your kids will screw up at some point ,and as a mom, so will you. Accept that it is part of motherhood and stop judging yourself for making mistakes as a mom.

3. Don’t Hang Out With “Negative Nancy” Moms

Stay away from people who don’t help you grow. We all have at least one person who no matter how loving, understanding we are to them, they will always be driven by negativity. I’m a big believer of empowering others and being loving, but I also think you either influence people or they influence you. So if you are around this type of mom who always has something negative to say, you might want to consider making other mom friends.

4. Stop Gossiping About Other Moms

It not only shames other moms, but it looks childish on your part. Women are good at avoiding conversation we don’t want to be part of. So redirect the conversation when you hear gossip about other moms. It’s not cool, and guess what? If they are talking about other moms in front of you, they are probably talking about you with other moms as well.

5. Stop Comparing Yourself

Something we often do as moms is compare ourselves. From our looks to the way we run our home, we often compare ourselvse to our mom friends and their lives. Everyone has their own journey, and that’s what’s special about each one of us. We are all unique and we all bring something different to the table. That’s what’s special about having friends!

6. Empower Other Moms

We all have women we look up to. We are either that for someone else and/ or we look up to others. Understand that and learn to be genuinely happy for other moms and to understand that we all struggle, too. Some of the challenges you’ve been through can benefit other moms and instead of looking down at them, you can help them overcome those same problems just like you did.We are all in this journey of motherhood together. And we can all agree on something – we all want the best for our kids and our home, so be loving and caring to other moms!

As always, leave a comment down below if you relate to this post or have tips on how to continue to help us grow into better moms and women! Oh, and please give this a share if you enjoyed this post.

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